“Be a good dependence”
There are people who can be a good dependence in a certain way and get some positive energy. And the partner looks happy and the relationship is fine.
I am not personally a good dependence. I took the word of “dependence” in negative way. I was raised hearing “Don’t be dependence. Do yourself. Try harder. Don’t call for a help...”
I believe that we should call for a help or ask for a favor when we really need ones.
Most of time, we do try harder to pretend to be good or show we are OK although we are not. This is not good for our self. It will easily end up with a disaster.
Show your authentic feelings. Do not ignore your feelings.
When you are asked for a help, do your best however don’t try harder to respond to her/his request. You need to be honest with your feelings, too.
“Mammy・・・” My 12-years old daughter sit by me.
“Well, we did not have a time together for a while because I have been busy. Alright, let’s watch a move tonight together.”
I saw a big smile on her face. I am happy, too.
My name is ABETOMO.
I will write my column about what I feel, I think, I wonder, I successfully made and/or failed.